Follow Friday: Following Jesus When People Fail You

“Following Jesus doesn’t mean the people around you will always be safe; it means you choose to be led by Truth, even when they are not.”

That is the heartbeat for this Follow Friday. After the kind of week you’ve had -people manipulating, projecting, lying, throwing mud on your name - it would be easy to let your faith become reactionary. To follow pain instead of Jesus. To follow fear instead of Truth. To follow the loudest voices instead of the still, steady voice of the Shepherd who has never mishandled you.

But this is where the real discipleship lives: in the everyday moments where you decide, again and again, “I will not let what they did to me determine who I become. I will follow Jesus here.”

When People Are Not Following Jesus, But Say They Are

One of the hardest parts of modern discipleship is this: there are people who use the language of Jesus while moving in the opposite spirit. Their captions are clean, their worship is loud, their talk is smooth - yet their fruit is deceit, division, and control.

You’ve seen it:

• People who proclaim “love” but weaponize information behind the scenes.
• People who talk “truth” but only when it benefits their narrative.
• People who say “God told me…” as a way to spiritually pressure others into compliance.

Jesus prepared you for this. He did not say, “Everyone who uses My name is safe.” He said:

“By their fruit you will recognize them. Do people pick grapes from thornbushes, or figs from thistles? Likewise, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit.”
Matthew 7:16–17 (NIV)

Following Jesus in everyday moments means you are allowed to look at the fruit, not just the phrases. If someone’s pattern is manipulation, lying, chaos, and mind games, you do not owe them unlimited access just because they sprinkle “God” or “prayer” into their vocabulary.

You are not judging their worth; you are discerning their fruit. That is not disobedience to Jesus - that is obedience.

Choosing Who You Actually Follow

You follow what you give the most weight to. That can be a person, a group, an opinion, or a storyline. This is why spiritual abuse hits so hard: people seize that “follow” place in your life, stand in it like a false shepherd, and then mishandle your trust.

Jesus draws a very different picture of what it means to follow Him:

“My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me. I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no one will snatch them out of my hand.”
John 10:27–28 (NIV)

Notice the order:

1. Listen to His voice.
2. Be known by Him.
3. Follow Him.

Following Jesus in everyday moments could look like:

• Hearing the whisper, “This room is not safe for you,” and trusting it.
• Feeling that tightness in your spirit around someone’s “jokes” and not gaslighting yourself.
• Returning, again and again, to what He has said about you when others lie about your character.

You follow whoever you let define reality for you. Today, you can say: “Jesus, You get that place back. I will not let manipulative people define what is true about me or about You.”

The Everyday Courage of Walking Away

We often think following Jesus only looks like moving toward something: toward service, toward community, toward ministry. But sometimes following Him looks like walking away: away from chaos, away from mind control, away from the devil’s playground.

When Jesus sent His disciples out, He gave them this instruction:

“And if anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, leave that home or town and shake the dust off your feet.”
Matthew 10:14 (NIV)

Shaking the dust is not bitterness; it is spiritual hygiene. It is the choice to say:

• “I will not carry your refusal to deal with truth into my next chapter.”
• “I can release you to God while refusing to stay entangled in your games.”
• “I can forgive you and still never put myself back into the same vulnerable position with you.”

On a Follow Friday, this might be your most Christ-like act: refusing to keep following the crowd, the group chat, the “leader,” or the dynamic that keeps betraying your peace, and instead literally following your Shepherd out of the gate and into a different pasture.

Following Jesus in the Private Conversations

Following Jesus isn’t only about your big public decisions; it’s also about what you do with the private conversations in your mind. After betrayal and manipulation, mental replay can become your default soundtrack: rehearsing what they said, imagining what you wish you’d said, trying to fix what they have already chosen not to see.

The apostle Paul gives a different way:

“We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”
2 Corinthians 10:5 (NIV)

To follow Jesus in your thinking, you can start asking:

• Does this thought lead me closer to the truth of God’s heart, or deeper into self-hatred and fear?
• Does this mental replay honor my healing, or just keep me emotionally tied to people God has asked me to release?
• Is this thought aligned with Love and Truth - or with shame, revenge, or obsession?

Taking your thoughts captive is not about pretending you weren’t hurt; it’s about not letting the hurt become your new leader. You can feel your feelings honestly, and still refuse to let them sit in the driver’s seat of your life.

What It Looks Like to Follow Jesus Today

Here are some very practical ways you might follow Jesus in the everyday moments of this Friday:

1. Follow Him in your boundaries.
   • You sense the nudge to mute, unfollow, or step back from someone whose content or presence always sends you spiraling.
   • Following Jesus might mean you finally honor that nudge, trusting that your peace matters to Him.
2. Follow Him in your words.
   • You get an opportunity to clap back or expose someone in a way that would feel good but slice deep.
   • Following Jesus might mean you speak truth without venom, or choose silence instead of a scorched-earth speech.
     “Those who guard their lips preserve their lives, but those who speak rashly will come to ruin.”
     Proverbs 13:3 (NIV)
3. Follow Him in your focus.
   • You notice your mind drifting toward what they’re doing, who they’re with, whether they’re getting “karma.”
   • Following Jesus might look like gently redirecting: “Lord, what are You saying to me today? What do You have for my healing, my growth, my assignment?”
4. Follow Him in your self-talk.
   • You catch yourself internalizing their accusations as truth.
   • Following Jesus might mean deliberately speaking what He says instead: “I am loved. I am seen. I am not crazy. I am being led.”
5. Follow Him in your small obediences.
   • Maybe it’s reaching out to someone safe and honest.
   • Maybe it’s going for a walk and breathing instead of numbing out.
   • Maybe it’s finally starting the thing He’s been whispering about while you were busy cleaning up other people’s messes.

Following Jesus is often less about dramatic, cinematic gestures and more about these small, quiet choices that no one else sees - but heaven does.

You Are Still the One He Calls “Follow Me”

After all the drama with people, it can be easy to see yourself as “the one who got fooled,” “the one who was too trusting,” or “the one everybody turned on.” But Jesus still looks at you the way He looked at His disciples - failures, deniers, doubters and all - and says, “Follow me.”

“Then he said to them all: ‘Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me.’”
Luke 9:23 (NIV)

Taking up your cross daily does not mean letting people crucify your boundaries or your sanity. It means surrendering your need to be liked by everyone, your urge to control people’s perception, your desire for instant justice - and choosing obedience, even when it costs you.

He is not ashamed of how long it took you to see the truth. He is not rolling His eyes at how deeply you trusted the wrong people. He delights in your sensitivity. He honors your hunger for authenticity. And He is more than capable of re-routing your steps from here.

A Prayer for Follow Friday

Lord Jesus,
I have followed a lot of voices -
some loud, some charming,
some wrapped in spiritual language
that did not carry Your heart.

Today, I return my “follow” to You.

Teach me to recognize Your voice
above the noise of manipulation,
projection, and lies.
Let my spirit become allergic
to anything that does not sound like
Your love and Your truth.
John 10:27–28 (NIV)

Give me courage
to walk away from unsafe environments,
to shake off the dust of places
that refused to honor truth,
and to trust You with my reputation
when I cannot control the narrative.
Matthew 10:14 (NIV)

Help me follow You
in the small, hidden choices -
in my thoughts, my boundaries,
my words, my focus, and my self-talk.
Let Your Spirit lead me
into power, love, and a sound mind
every single day.
2 Timothy 1:7 (NIV)

Thank You that even
when people fail me,
You never have.
I choose, again,
to follow You.

In Your name, Jesus,
Amen.

Follow Friday whisper to carry with you:

“You do not follow their lies, their projections, or their shame. You follow Me - step by step, breath by breath, brick by brick - and I will lead you into places their hands can’t touch.”

With Love,
Eugene 💘

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🎧 Frequency Feature: Hold On

“Hold On” by Wilson Phillips is such a beautiful echo of this Follow Friday because it captures that moment where you decide, deep down, not to let your current pain become your permanent story. The song becomes an anthem for choosing to follow Jesus through the hardest stretch - to hold on for one more day, trusting that as you keep walking with Him, He is breaking cycles, shifting atmospheres, and leading you into a life where you are no longer defined by the people who mishandled you but by the freedom He’s bringing you into.

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